Project New Experiences

To Learn & Grow

Day #1

I’ve decided I will make myself try at least one new thing everyday, for at least 1 year.

So from today, 12/12/2018, until just before the next shopping frenzy on 12/12/2019, my goal is to learn, grow and get to know myself a little better.

For today, I finally subscribed to the New York Times at $1/week because I followed a trail of salted dark chocolate cake crumbs on Facebook and became absolutely annoyed that I couldn’t learn more about other recipes unless I subscribed. That, and I kept using up my free article limit too quickly.

I also tried out today’s Crossword puzzle and swiftly had my ass kicked. And did you know there’s a timer that goes on and on, constantly reminding you that you’re taking way too long to solve it. Yes it took me 21 minutes and 14 seconds to put down 8 answers that might not even be right.

I think I’ll put a post-it on my screen to cover the timer so I don’t know how woefully long it took me to complete just.one.puzzle.

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Hello, Act 2

In my most recent Spring Cleaning effort, before this year’s Chinese New Year, I unearthed this big humongous bag of clothes that I had stashed away after I had my first baby.

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These were clothes I had loved and spent good money on. These were clothes I wore to classes in Perth. They accompanied me in law school and through all the late nights I worked as a lawyer in Singapore. They traveled with me and were ever present when I fell in love with the excitement of New York and the quaintness of Hoi-An. They were with me when my husband asked me to marry him.

See you again soon, I thought, as I packed them away with the great hope that my body would return to its pre-baby state, soon.

Little did I realise then that I would be changed forever.

Nearly 6 years, 3 babies and career switches later, I realise it would have been impossible to stay the same. My experiences as a wife, mother, lawyer and entrepreneur have made me come face-to-face with myself –  my limitations, my strengths, what I want, and what I don’t want. These experiences weren’t all pleasant, or serene. For the most part, my biggest transformations occurred through the hottest fires. And just when I thought I won’t survive, I couldn’t hang on, I managed to muster up just enough strength to take that next step forward.

I’ve really realised and internalised the fact that life is too short and too precious to be wasted. Doing the same things will only bring the same results.

So, I am done, waiting for other people to see what I am worth. Because if I don’t realise my own worth, nobody else will.

I am done waiting for permission to be who I am, so I am embracing my own point of view.

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Sometimes, it has to be about just me.

I am done putting up with people who are a waste of my time, love and energy, so I’m keeping my inner circle tight.

I am done doing things that are meaningless to me, so whatever I do needs to make sense to me and what I want for my life.

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I said goodbye to this bag of clothes after taking out a few keepsakes as reminders of who I once was.

There wasn’t any point in keeping them, and trying to squeeze into moulds that no longer fit.

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Happy New Year, everyone!

Goodbye, Act 1. Hello, Act 2.

5 Things I Learned from Randi Zuckerberg

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Randi Zuckerberg is the Founder and CEO of Zuckerberg Media, Creator of Dot Complicated and Former Director of Market Development & Spokesperson of Facebook.

Randi was not at all how I imagined her to be when I met her.

I half expected a professional, hardened, power-talking persona, and maybe she would be a little cold and standoffish, but she was none of those things.

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She’s got to be one of my favourite Supermamapreneurs because she is so down-to-earth and warm. She’s smart and immensely funny, and she doesn’t possess that arrogance that some super successful people have.

Here’s 5 things that I’ve learnt from her:

Lesson 1: Don’t let your height get to your head, and negativity get to your heart

When Mark first started Facebook, he was just 18 years old and people were mean and called him the toddler CEO. Even though he does have a thick skin, (and I guess you would have to develop that if you’re him), sometimes it was hard to not let comments like this get to him. Someone passed some advice to Randi, which she shared with him – You’re never as bad as they say, and never as good as they say, so don’t let your height get to your head, and negativity get to your heart.

Lesson 2: Her Secret to being a Supermamapreneur — Work, Sleep, Fitness, Family, Friends – Pick 3 Only 

To juggle her life and make it work, she gives herself permission to not have to do everything all at once. Each day, just pick 3, and everyday can be different. See, this is actually the secret of being super – we don’t have to try to do everything at once, and I think we have to learn to stop pressuring ourselves to be everything to everyone too. It’s just not sustainable.

Lesson 3: It doesn’t matter if you get 4000 “Nos”. You just need 1 “YES!” 

In 2007,  she wanted to give Facebook some credibility by getting involved in the U.S. Presidential campaigns, and to show that Facebook is also a serious place for discourse. She called so many campaigns and got turned down many, many times. The only one who said “yes” from the start was the Obama campaign (and look how that turned out!).

Lesson 4: Don’t go into business with your best friend.

If you’re best friends, chances are you both are quite alike. Having differences is the only reason why she and Mark could work together so well for so long. They would work on different areas of the business and not step on each others toes. So in business, pick someone opposite of you for best results.

Lesson 5: Money just amplifies what’s already in you. 

When asked how money has changed her life, she says she still lives a very simple life, and lives the way she did before. In her experience, money doesn’t change people. It just amplifies what is already inside of you. So if you are insecure, money will make you crazy insecure. If you’re an asshole, money will make you a crazy asshole!

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Love her yet? 🙂

Millionaire Mentor: George Ross, Trump Organisation, The Apprentice Judge

How To Transition from Law To Business

So I had the pleasure of interviewing George Ross, Donald Trump’s Right Hand Man and Chief Legal Counsel of the Trump Organisation (for 42 years!).

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He was also a judge on The Apprentice and Celebrity Apprentice. Yeah, he’s the guy on the left.

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I can’t imagine how much experience he has, but I thought I’d take the chance to find out his thoughts on transitioning from law to business.

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To all my lawyer friends, don’t say don’t have!

To be honest, he doesn’t say anything groundbreaking, but it’s good to know you’re on the right track if you’re doing what he says you should since he’s done it before.

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Overcoming the fear or apprehension in transitioning from law to business

 

 

 

3 Steps To Colouring Your World

So I’ve recently taken up colouring, to my children’s excitement, because now Mummy will sit down and colour longer with them!

It started out with trying free printed Mandalas downloaded from the Internet, to just this week in Melbourne, buying a colouring book for myself.

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There are a lot of articles online detailing the benefits of colouring (Check out CNN and Huffington Post just to name a few), like how it might be like meditation and how it reduces anxiety and stress. After trying it out for a while, I couldn’t agree more.

But the thing is, to me, to gain the kind of inner calm, focus and uplift, it is important to consider these 3 factors before colouring your way around.

  1. Like What You Are Colouring

My sister gave me one colouring book before, but it had all these numbers in it, presumably as a guide on what to colour first or something like that. And if you’re like me, more a student of chaos than anything else and so not a numbers person, this type of colouring book would be more maddening than anything else.

The same goes for Mandala prints too. I mean, if the print doesn’t make sense to you, or it’s too intricate a design that it irritates you instead of calms you, then please, by all means choose something else. This is supposed to make you happy!

Personally, I’ve chosen International Street Artist, Kelsey Montague’s What Lifts You colouring book. I love the designs in the book and how it is filled with themes that resonate with me.

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2. There Are No “Shoulds”

When you do get down to colouring, there’s a freedom in remembering there are no “shoulds”. The grass should be green. The sky should be blue. The flowers should not be black. The butterfly should not be striped. That seahorse should not have hearts on it.

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Nice, no? My scannable seahorse at Melbourne’s SEA Life Aquarium.

None of that applies.

This is something you want to express yourself freely and thoroughly with. This is about what you want to create that is uniquely you.

3. Enjoy The Ride

I wasn’t sure about what to expect when I started colouring. Other than trying to stay within the lines and making sure my work was aesthetically pleasing, there wasn’t much else I was focused on.

Then when I got used to the idea of colouring and actually doing it, I found that I could make clearer sense about the thoughts that came and went throughout the session.

What surprised me most though, was that by simply colouring, I could focus deeply on what I wanted and needed and what I could do to get there. I suppose this is called connecting with your true self or inner self, if you believe in that sort of thing.

But I prefer to call it “finding my centre”. Who knows what you might find?

 

Just Mama & Bubba: Kaius

The Great, Enormous Melbourne Mash Up

I think I’ll make it tradition for each kid to travel with me and or the husband alone before going to primary 1. This time it’s me and Kaius, and our Great, Enormous, Melbourne Mash Up. 


(The kids have a book called “The Great, Enormous Hamburger”. And so now everything is “Great” and “Enormous”. Gotta love a kid’s perspective!)

2017

The Year of Change

 

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Being an entrepreneur is not just about what a person does for a living. It is a mindset and a way of thinking – an approach to life.

And sometimes, while you’re figuring things out, you have to make certain changes to fulfil existing responsibilities because life doesn’t stop.

So this year, I’ve decided to close the door on the health supplement and skin care business that I’ve been in for the past 6 years because a change is long overdue.

I’m getting a job while my entrepreneurial activities take a back seat – for now. The thing about being an entrepreneur is this: your mind never really switches off from it. There are always enterprising ideas and questions you ask yourself when you look at different businesses, like “Is this shop really making money selling just this? I wonder what their margins are? This bubble tea thing is not going away!”

I feel like the past 6 years of my life have been a kind of baptism in business by fire. As a lawyer, your knowledge about business is limited, even if you are a corporate lawyer. Your job is to protect your client’s interests, and to document, document and document.

As a business person, your job is profitability. It doesn’t look like a big word, but in many businesses, it can be illusive, even with huge revenues. You can come up with the most creative ideas, but if your numbers still say you’re in the red after your best perceived marketing efforts, then you have failed.

And yes, it can be extremely brutal.

But this is how you become resilient. And this resilience in business, somehow is transferrable to other areas of life.

While I am focusing on getting a job, I’m still doing the things I like to do like spending time with my family, my new Treaterrific! lifestyle hobby business, contributing to women’s empowerment and volunteering where I can (because everyone needs hobbies!).

I’m keeping my inner circle tight and kicking out the trash.

2017 for me, is about change.

Because how we change is how we succeed.