Project New Experiences

To Learn & Grow

Day #1

I’ve decided I will make myself try at least one new thing everyday, for at least 1 year.

So from today, 12/12/2018, until just before the next shopping frenzy on 12/12/2019, my goal is to learn, grow and get to know myself a little better.

For today, I finally subscribed to the New York Times at $1/week because I followed a trail of salted dark chocolate cake crumbs on Facebook and became absolutely annoyed that I couldn’t learn more about other recipes unless I subscribed. That, and I kept using up my free article limit too quickly.

I also tried out today’s Crossword puzzle and swiftly had my ass kicked. And did you know there’s a timer that goes on and on, constantly reminding you that you’re taking way too long to solve it. Yes it took me 21 minutes and 14 seconds to put down 8 answers that might not even be right.

I think I’ll put a post-it on my screen to cover the timer so I don’t know how woefully long it took me to complete just.one.puzzle.

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Fun With Kaius!

Happy Birthday to my favourite 6 year old!

So Kaius is another year older, and at 6 years old he really is quite fun to hang out with alone. He asks insightful questions, he makes funny comments, and he always surprises me with his thoughtfulness.

I brought him out on his birthday, just me and him, and we went to Universal Studios in Sentosa (before the Trump-Kim hullabaloo) to check out the Jurassic World features they had there.

But first, Slappy Cakes! I always prize new experiences over things and I’m glad he really enjoyed it. Usually when I make pancakes at home, it’s over the gas stove, and there’s always a worry that he might lose his balance and fall whilst bending over on the stool to make pancakes. Plus, here we got to doodle too!

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Next, sight-seeing!

Everybody’s favourite bee.

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He would only ride on Alex the Lion and no one else.

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Of course, we had to stop by to see the dinosaurs.

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This Augmented Reality stop was one of his favourites because we got to pet the dinosaurs!

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As much fun as we were having, and as much as I was trying to spoil him on his birthday, I will forever remember his thoughtfulness and regard for others (me).

There was a Jurassic World live show going on when we were at Universal Studios, and of course we got there late so there weren’t many good spots to watch from. I carried him, all 20kg of him, and tried my best to hold him up so he could see. I didn’t say anything about him being heavy because it was his birthday and he doesn’t usually ask me for much, so I thought bear with it for him. But he knew I was struggling (poor Mummy is not as strong as Daddy!), and after a while, he said he didn’t want to watch anymore. Though he insisted he didn’t want to watch, I knew he was just trying to help me out so I didn’t have to carry him anymore. This is the boy who picked out a T-Rex toy at the gift shop over so many other toys, who wants to read every dinosaur book he has, and loovesss his dinosaur t-shirts.

Of course he wanted to watch the Jurassic World show.

Fortunately for us, as we moved farther away from the stage as I tried to find a better spot for us to watch, we got a really good view of the show. He could watch without me carrying him but I carried him anyway.

I also realised he probably won’t want me to carry him much longer, with him getting bigger and going off to Primary school next year ūüė¶

I’m not sure I’m ready for this!

But you know, as much as I’ve been worried that he might not be ready for formal education, I am comforted that he shows me that he is. He’s beginning to assume more responsibility at home like feeding our pet rabbit, Toffee, daily. He’s eager to learn and he really, really enjoys doing English and Math exercises. And no, it’s really not a chore for him. He really wants to learn and get everything right.

So it was really great timing when Education.com sent over some fun worksheets. Thank you Education.com for helping to make Kaius’ birthday fun!

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Links to worksheets (and answer keys for ease!) below:

Crawl like a bug through this themed maze from Education.com! For more fun, check out these math games! 

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Paddle through some subtraction practice with this summer themed worksheet from Education.com! Find even more fun subtraction resources here.

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Keep your spelling skills sharp this summer with this word search worksheet. For more great educational games, activities, and worksheets, check out these resources from Education.com.

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Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

Hello, Act 2

In my most recent Spring Cleaning effort, before this year’s Chinese New Year, I unearthed this big humongous bag of clothes that I had stashed away after I had my first baby.

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These were clothes I had loved and spent good money on. These were clothes I wore to classes in Perth. They accompanied me in law school and through all the late nights I worked as a lawyer in Singapore. They traveled with me and were ever present when I fell in love with the excitement of New York and the quaintness of Hoi-An. They were with me when my husband asked me to marry him.

See you again soon, I thought, as I packed them away with the great hope that my body would return to its pre-baby state, soon.

Little did I realise then that I would be changed forever.

Nearly 6 years, 3 babies and career switches later, I realise it would have been impossible to stay the same. My experiences as a wife, mother, lawyer and entrepreneur have made me come face-to-face with myself – ¬†my limitations, my strengths, what I want, and what I don’t want. These experiences weren’t all pleasant, or serene. For the most part, my biggest transformations occurred through the hottest fires. And just when I thought I won’t survive, I couldn’t hang on, I managed to muster up just enough strength to take that next step forward.

I’ve really realised and internalised the fact that life is too short and too precious to be wasted. Doing the same things will only bring the same results.

So, I am done, waiting for other people to see what I am worth. Because if I don’t realise my own worth, nobody else will.

I am done waiting for permission to be who I am, so I am embracing my own point of view.

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Sometimes, it has to be about just me.

I am done putting up with people who are a waste of my time, love and energy, so I’m keeping my inner circle tight.

I am done doing things that are meaningless to me, so whatever I do needs to make sense to me and what I want for my life.

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I said goodbye to this bag of clothes after taking out a few keepsakes as reminders of who I once was.

There wasn’t any point in keeping them, and trying to squeeze into moulds that no longer fit.

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Happy New Year, everyone!

Goodbye, Act 1. Hello, Act 2.

Millionaire Mentor: George Ross, Trump Organisation, The Apprentice Judge

How To Transition from Law To Business

So I had the pleasure of interviewing George Ross, Donald Trump’s Right Hand Man and Chief Legal Counsel of the Trump Organisation (for 42 years!).

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He was also a judge on The Apprentice and Celebrity Apprentice. Yeah, he’s the guy on the left.

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I can’t imagine how much experience he has, but I thought I’d take the chance to find out his thoughts on transitioning from law to business.

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To all my lawyer friends, don’t say don’t have!

To be honest, he doesn’t say anything groundbreaking, but it’s good to know you’re on the right track if you’re doing what he says you should since he’s done it before.

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Overcoming the fear or apprehension in transitioning from law to business

 

 

 

3 Steps To Colouring Your World

So I’ve recently taken up colouring, to my children’s excitement, because now Mummy will sit down and colour longer with them!

It started out with trying free printed Mandalas downloaded from the Internet, to just this week in Melbourne, buying a colouring book for myself.

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There are a lot of articles online detailing the benefits of colouring (Check out CNN and Huffington Post¬†just to name a few), like how it might be like meditation and how it reduces anxiety and stress. After trying it out for a while, I couldn’t agree more.

But the thing is, to me, to gain the kind of inner calm, focus and uplift, it is important to consider these 3 factors before colouring your way around.

  1. Like What You Are Colouring

My sister gave me one colouring book before, but it had all these numbers in it, presumably as a guide on what to colour first or something like that. And if you’re like me, more a student of chaos than anything else and so not a numbers person, this type of colouring book would be more maddening than anything else.

The same goes for Mandala prints too. I mean, if the print doesn’t make sense to you, or it’s too intricate a design that it irritates you instead of calms you, then please, by all means choose something else. This is supposed to make you happy!

Personally, I’ve chosen International Street Artist, Kelsey Montague’s What Lifts You colouring book. I love the designs in the book and how it is filled with themes that resonate with me.

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2. There Are No “Shoulds”

When you do get down to colouring, there’s a freedom in remembering there are no “shoulds”. The grass should be green. The sky should be blue. The flowers should not be black. The butterfly should not be striped. That seahorse should not have hearts on it.

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Nice, no? My scannable seahorse at Melbourne’s SEA Life Aquarium.

None of that applies.

This is something you want to express yourself freely and thoroughly with. This is about what you want to create that is uniquely you.

3. Enjoy The Ride

I wasn’t sure about what to expect when I started colouring. Other than trying to stay within the lines and making sure my work was aesthetically pleasing, there wasn’t much else I was focused on.

Then when I got used to the idea of colouring and actually doing it, I found that I could make clearer sense about the thoughts that came and went throughout the session.

What surprised me most though, was that by simply colouring, I could focus deeply on what I wanted and needed and what I could do to get there. I suppose this is called connecting with your true self or inner self, if you believe in that sort of thing.

But I prefer to call it “finding my centre”. Who knows what you might find?

 

Just Mama & Bubba: Kaius

The Great, Enormous Melbourne Mash Up

I think I’ll make it tradition for each kid to travel with me and or the husband alone before going to primary 1. This time it’s me and Kaius, and our Great, Enormous, Melbourne Mash Up. 


(The kids have a book called “The Great, Enormous Hamburger”. And so now everything is “Great” and “Enormous”. Gotta love a kid’s perspective!)

2017

The Year of Change

 

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Being an entrepreneur is not just about what a person does for a living. It is a mindset and a way of thinking – an approach to life.

And sometimes, while you’re figuring things out, you have to make certain changes to fulfil existing responsibilities because life doesn’t stop.

So this year, I’ve decided to close the door on the health supplement and skin care business that I’ve been in for the past 6 years because a change is long overdue.

I’m getting a job while my entrepreneurial activities take a back seat – for now. The thing about being an entrepreneur is this: your mind never really switches off from it. There are always enterprising ideas and questions you ask yourself when you look at different businesses, like “Is this shop really making money selling just this?¬†I wonder what their margins are? This bubble tea thing is not going away!”

I feel like the past 6 years of my life have been a kind of baptism in business by fire. As a lawyer, your knowledge about business is limited, even if you are a corporate lawyer. Your job is to protect your client’s interests, and to document, document and document.

As a business person, your job is profitability. It doesn’t look like a big word, but in many businesses, it can be illusive, even with huge revenues. You can come up with the most creative ideas, but if your numbers still say you’re in the red after your best perceived marketing efforts, then you have failed.

And yes, it can be extremely brutal.

But this is how you become resilient. And this resilience in business, somehow is transferrable to other areas of life.

While I am focusing on getting a job, I’m still doing the things I like to do like spending time with my family, my new Treaterrific!¬†lifestyle hobby business, contributing to women’s empowerment and volunteering where I can (because everyone needs hobbies!).

I’m keeping my inner circle tight and kicking¬†out the trash.

2017 for me, is about change.

Because how we change is how we succeed.

 

My Allegra.*

Of all my children, Allegra is the most spunky. 

She walks with a spring in her step. She sings, dances, skips and hops all at once. 

When she smiles (and it is usually a cheeky smile), her big round eyes light up with eager anticipation. 

Even though she is confident and extroverted, don’t mistake this for an impenetrable shield. Her heart is fragile even though it loves those she deems worthy, fiercely and completely. 

This daughter of mine has such a creative personality – case in point these photos – she’s the girl who will choose to wear her cousin’s Adidas running shoes with her frilly girly socks, jewellery and party outfit. That’s how she rocks her outfits.
I love my children all the same. But she reminds me most of, well, me. 

I hope I live my life in a way that will be a great example for her to follow – as a girl, as a woman, and if she wants, as a wife and mother. 

Most of all I hope I show her that she doesn’t have to be anyone else but her most authentic and amazing self. 

Kids: Kaius & McDonald’s¬†

Me: OK kids, nap time! Go lie down and I’ll go get my book. 

Kaius: You mean your McDonald’s book? 

Me: (amused) How did you know it’s a McDonald’s book? 

Kaius: Because I saw the McDonald’s sign and I was reading it just now. 

Wow. My son is a lot more observant than I give him credit for and he’s growing up fast. 

How can I not fight to be a good example for him? 

Kaius with Grinding It Out. The Making of McDonald’s by American businessman Ray Kroc. He was responsible for making McDonald’s into the world’s most iconic fast-food brand.